The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F Sexist

Book Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

By Marking Manson

Summarised in ane quote

'True happiness occurs only when you find the problems yous enjoy having and bask solving.' (p.32)

Mark Manson's The Subtle Fine art of Not Giving a F*ck is a sagacious book (a give-and-take that has quickly run up the ladder of my favourite adjectives of all fourth dimension).

Manson presents an unrelenting assortment of counterintuitive arguments supported by profound case studies and analogies. His best ideas aren't subconscious amongst pages and pages of high-minded prose or onerous self-indulgence. He says information technology right to your confront and observes your reaction with a raucous laugh followed by a comforting pat on the dorsum.

Recommended if you lot want to:

• Pursue the destruction of all personal suffering and notice why that's impossible
• Build self sensation around the kind of lifestyle that volition make you happy in the long term
• Reduce the level of stress and anxiety yous have around goals, operation and power
• Sympathise why nosotros tend towards giving too many f*cks about problems that don't matter and give also few to those that do

Stories to Call up

Most non-fiction books use storytelling to striking home their points. Here is a option of my favourite anecdotes from this book, and where to find them.

Desire the Pain (p.ix)

Exercise yous know what sucks? Obsessing over what you don't have. Manson makes the compelling observation that the desire for a positive experience is in itself, a negative experience. 'The more than you lot desperately want to be rich, the more poor and unworthy you experience, regardless of how much coin you lot really make. The more y'all desperately want to be sexy and desired, the uglier you come to come across yourself, regardless of your actual physical appearance. The more you lot desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you.'

Then if you shouldn't pursue positive experiences how can you e'er experience happiness? Marking's answer: pursue the negative. 'The pain you pursue in the gym results in better all-around health and energy. The failures in business organisation are what lead to a better agreement of what'south necessary to be successful. Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more than confident and charismatic effectually others. The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships. Suffering through fears and anxiety is what allows y'all to build courage and perseverance.'

Lawyer upwards! (p.15)

It's easy to get confused about the subtlety of the art of not giving a fock. This book doesn't abet indifference. It advocates doing what's right in the face of adversity.

Manson illustrates this with a story of his mum getting scammed out of a large chunk of money. He could take simply shrugged his shoulders, accepted that'due south the style the globe works and continued watching the latest serial on Netflix. Instead he thought, 'No screw that Mom. We're going to lawyer the fuck up and go afterward this asshole. Why? Considering I don't give a fuck.' The fine art of not giving a fuck isn't nearly being blah about everything. Information technology'southward about not caring for arduousness in the face of achieving your goals.

Responsibility and fault (p.98)

It's time to ascertain the difference between fault and responsibility, and Manson does this wonderfully. Whilst it's common for responsibleness to follow fault (if I crash my car into you, it'south both my mistake and my responsibility to compensate you), there are also many problems that we aren't at mistake for, yet we are even so responsible.

'For example, if you woke upward one day and in that location was a newborn baby on your doorstep, information technology would not exist your mistake that the baby had been put there, but the babe would exist your responsibility. You have to choose what to do. And whatever you terminate up choosing (keeping it, getting rid of it, ignoring information technology, feeding it to a pit bull), at that place would exist bug associated with your choice-and you would be responsible for those as well.' The punchline is that there is no use blaming other people for your situation. Only you are responsible for it. If your boss sucks, your favourite Television set show gets cancelled or your girlfriend cheats on you (a personal story from Mark), only you are responsible for your feelings and reactions. What do you choose?

As always, these brief anecdotes cover a pocket-size fraction of the themes explored in the full book. If you like what yous're reading, consider buying the book!

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